How Having A Positive Attitude Can Help You
How you deal with things in life can be as much about your perception as the actual event itself. Your mind-set affects the way you perceive the world and how you react can have a profound effect on the outcome. Unfortunately, about 40% of folk suffer from depression following retirement, something that could be avoided.
Optimism is an essential ingredient in the recipe for putting old on hold. It is said that optimists are people who sit on top of the clouds that others labour underneath. It’s a good analogy, but we are talking about a particular type of optimism here. It’s not the Pollyanna, rose-tinted spectacles, kind, but a realistic optimism. What underpins optimists’ positive take on life is the belief that they will handle its slings and arrows and win through.
There are some very compelling reasons to be optimistic.
- You will live longer. One major study found that optimistic women lived four years longer on average than those who were not optimistic.
- Optimism has a protective effect against major health problems such as cancer and heart attack.
- You are more likely to come up with solutions to problems. Those in a positive frame of mind find more answers to challenges and are more likely to try them.
- Optimism can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. One study found that students who were told by teachers that they were top performers achieved better results than previously and also better results than those who weren’t told that they were A-class students.
If you find yourself feeling a bit down getting out and getting some exercise is a good way to raise endorphin levels. Being with other people is a good antidote too. If you dread facing the day on an on-going basis and feel that everything is pointless, it’s time to go and see your GP. Therapies like counselling or Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) also help.
Heard of Gelotology? This sticky sounding name applies to the study of something that does you an immense amount of good: reducing stress, boosting the immune system by increasing substances like Gamma interferon and T cells, triggering endorphins (the feel-good chemicals) and also stimulating your limbic system making you happier. This sounds just the kind of thing that could make drug companies and doctors a fortune. But the best thing of all is that it’s fun and it’s free. What is it? Laughter and you need to enjoy it as often as you can.
To quote from Dublin-born psychologist Elaine Fox’s book Rainy Brain Sunny Brain.
Spot the Negatives
- Over-generalisation. A student fails one subject and despite doing well in everything else and the fact he can do a repeat, takes this as proof that he is stupid and worthless.
- Arbitrary inference. You make a conclusion based on insufficient evidence. You are convinced that the whole day is going to go pear shaped just because you missed a bus.
- Magnification or minimisation – errors of performance evaluation, a woman thinks she has ruined her car because she got a small scratch on it.
- Mission impossible. You set yourself impossible standards, things you must do, known as must-do-bation.
- Personalisation. You think that everything everyone says is some kind of reaction to yourself.
- Fantasy ladder. The fantasy ladder is another example of the way we can start with a minor incident and rapidly turn it into a tragic drama.
Tuning in to your internal dialogue – the things you are telling yourself – and doing a reality check on what you are saying (is this really true? is this the only way of looking at things? what about the more positive side of the picture?) is a helpful way to challenge negative thoughts.
This excerpt was taken from Rewire Don’t Retire, sponsored by Irish Life and Active Retirement Ireland. You can download the full guide HERE.